#MeetTheMindells: One Month Out!

10/21/2014

My last post!!!!!!!! I can’t believe how quickly this year flew by (yet at the same time seemed like an eternity?) and now I’m just 25 days away from saying OH HEY HUSBAND! We’re down to serious crunch time and final details, so let’s get rolling.

Joshua Tree Engagement Session
Photo by Katie Stoops from our Engagement Session

What We’ve Done

We invited our guests and got all our RSVPs! BAM! It’s so nice to know a final total now, and we have less guests than expected which will make for an even more intimate day!

Palm Springs Wedding Invitations
Our RSVPs! Design by Bash Please and Calligraphy by A Fabulous Fete

Flowers!!! Holly and I finally had a (hour and half long) chat about flower specifics. We went through all the bouquets and arrangement on my Pinterest board and dissected what I liked and didn’t like, color palettes, specific blooms and greenery… for two flower lovers like us, this was a blast! Now, we just have to see what is actually available come wedding time but we’re going for the gold: peonies, garden roses, ranunculus, maybe even some poppies if there’s a fluke miracle! Lots of greenery too because I like really loose bouquets, where just a few blooms are the true stars. EEP I COULD DIE I AM SO EXCITED ABOUT THE FLOWERS! Jeff on the other hand was all “Are you going to get off the phone soon? I’m hungry.” Boys.

We finalized MOST of our design details. Bash sent over the most epic design/decor proposal and we’re really excited about all the details they and Lauren are working on. I’ve told you all along that I won’t be doing much (if anything) for the decor, and I wasn’t joking. I’m leaving this day to the professionals so I can relax. And it doesn’t feel weird AT ALL. I’m so excited I don’t have 45 DIY projects to do in the next month. FO REAL! I know that this is probably what you guys really want to hear about, but it’s pretty important to me to keep some things as a surprise to our guests, so sadly I’m going to leave it out for now! Just know we’ll have some giant things, some flying things and some “shake what your mama gave ya” things.

Speaking of, we had our mock up! This was a blast. We got to see all our table settings, place cards (OMG they are amazing.), table numbers, chairs, linens, etc. all together. It’s really awesome to do this part and see it all come together after what seems like an eternity of decision making. My mom flew out to LA for it too which was really fun!

Pink and Gold Wedding
A little (terribly lit) peek at our table settings! Glassware from The Hostess Haven

We found a reading! I am slightly more excited about our reading than I am about our vows (oops). It’s from Friends and it’s great. And we may be the only two who get it, but I’m a-ok with that! After that, we finalized most of our wedding ceremony and rearranged a few things.

We booked our day-after brunch. After all your input on this post, we decided to do a grab-and-go brunch. We’ll have pre-boxed meals that people can take with them on the road, or grab and hang out at the hotel with us. And yes, Jeff and I will be stopping by to say hello (goodbye?) to everyone, before heading back to our little paradise for the next few days.

Accessorize! I got a few final accessories for the day (and an amazing garter from this lady! I’m lucky to have talented friends!!)! I ordered some accessories for the gals and Jeff has shoes. We’re getting there!

Peach and Champagne Lace Garter - The Garter Girl
My garter from The Garter Girl

Jeff got his groomsmen some of his favorite products from This Is Ground as gifts and they are awesome. Mine are still in progress.

We got our marriage license! Oh hey, we bought ourselves (a very pricey) marriage! Thanks, California. I did find out that it takes six weeks before I get the paperwork so I can change my name!? Hoping they exaggerated on that one. Also, I was expecting some fancy certificate with a seal and everything, and it’s basically just a piece of computer paper with some lines. Ha! That made me laugh, along with the fact that the line next to the marriage line was for traffic court. I have never felt so cliche as standing in line with Jeff holding hands while we waited.

Marriage License
Marriage License!!

We moved people around in the hotel. 45 trillion times. We really wanted to rent an estate for our families, but mine is just too darn big, so we rented out a hotel instead. We are still happy we did this and excited to have a space all to ourselves, but with each room being completely different and everyone coming in and out at different times, this has definitely been our biggest headache. We’re getting really close and hoping the hotel doesn’t start blocking our numbers from calling daily. 😉

What We Need to Do

Practice dancin’! I could just dance all the time, so I’m not. But regardless, we need to practice.

Joshua Tree Engagement Session
Photo by Katie Stoops

Select drinks. We’re having a few wines, beers and two cocktails. We’re recruiting my wine loving siblings to help with the wine, and Jeff will handle the rest.

Write our vows! The time has come and I can only put off writing my vows a little longer. I did convince Jeff to let me go first, since I know his will be better than mine. But now, to get them on paper…

We have to do our seating arrangement. Everyone says this is the worst part, but because we are just having two very long tables, I’m not really concerned about it. I’m actually kind of excited. I really like puzzles. Perhaps I will feel differently next week when we actually do it.

White House Wedding RSVP
The Obamas couldn’t make it. 😉
(For what it’s worth, not looking to start a political conversation here but yes, we did invite the president!)

We need to fill up our welcome bags! Kate is designing a map of our favorite spots (and key wedding locations) and we have a few ideas for what will go in them, but now we have to execute everything. This is the one “project” we’re doing all ourselves, largely because I’m really freaking excited about this. I love giving people things.

We need to get wedding insurance. Bash is handling this. Phew!

I need to get my dress to fit! We thought my final fitting would be last week, but it’s taking some major tailoring to get it to fit me properly so I have another fitting in a few weeks. Nothing like gettin’ down to crunch time folks! Oh and my crazy racerback tan line is still hanging on strong, so I will now be exfoliating the heck out of my back.

I need to turn my sweater into a cardigan, and I may need to do some surgery on a few shirts to make one for my niece (because I’m stubborn like that). Bring it, sewing machine!

How We’re Feeling

We are finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. And we are racing towards that light as fast as possible! We’re so ready for the day to be here as we have the patience of two year olds. We have really enjoyed some of these final more creative details a lot more than the other things we had to check off the list. Getting our license was fun, the mock up was fun, welcome bag shopping is fun. It’s like we saved the fun stuff for last, which is good… for our sanity.

Upside Down

Help! (Or, Questions for You Hitched Folks!)

We’re feeling pretty good about getting everything done but I know there’s some things we’re forgetting (or going to forget)! So I’d love to know (selfishly!) from you married folks, what were the things in the final days that you forgot about, almost forgot about or made sure not to forget because you knew you would!? I’m talking details, things to bring, tasks to check off… basically, what are we going to think of the week of and be like “OMG!?” Anything? I know you want to help a lady out!

I’m really going to miss these posts! Even though wedding planning has felt like a rollercoaster, I’ve really enjoyed posting here about everything and hearing all your opinions and advice. I’m sure I’ll do a few post-wedding updates or maybe a post-wedding Q&A if there’s something you’re curious about that I left out? Something! For now, I’m off to run the final stretch of this marathon!! Wish us luck!!!!

For more on all our wedding prep + experiences, click here!

19 comments

  • Janice

    The last tasks for brides and grooms usually include: organize final payments and gratuities, create seating chart, make list of group portraits for photog, work on play/do not play for DJ, and PACK! 🙂 Good luck and see you soon xoxoxo

  • Stephani

    Anything that was left to the last minute ended up not mattering to me. If something didn’t get done or was forgotten, it was forgotten for a reason and wasn’t missed.

    • Kelly

      So glad to hear that, Stephani! Something I need to keep reminding myself as we approach the day! =)

  • Christina

    Found your blog via your little shout out to my popsicle recommendation in the comments of Paper n Stitch’s Atlanta post! 🙂

    Looking back on my wedding day, there’s not much I regret in terms of details. If I could do it all over though, I’d definitely hire a wedding planner because GOODNESS it is stressful planning a large event when you’ve never planned a large event before. However, wedding planning comes naturally to some brides, so it could just be a ‘me’ thing, haha.

    The other thing was not having a wedding guest book, which is kind of ironic because I now work for a book bindery that makes them. We had a photo booth with chalkboard signs/props but I didn’t have anything to store the images inafter the wedding! Would have loved a book for them!

    After the wedding, it’s easy to get caught up in honeymooning, moving (we relocated from Florida to Georgia), thank you cards, and adjusting to married life. I probably told myself I’d figure something out for the photo booth photos after the wedding (which turned into and expensive and unfinished gallery wall project) and then put it off and put it off.

    SO long story short, if there’s anything you’re telling yourself you can handle after the wedding (like ordering a wedding album or getting your parents a thank you gift if they contributed in a big way to your wedding day), just get it taken care of now. Pre-wedding tasks can be stressful and never ending if you let them take over – try not to have them carry over into your marriage. Hope that helps!

    -Christina

    P.S. LOVE the details you’ve posted already. Looks fantastic! 🙂 Congratulations!!

    • Kelly

      I definitely agree with hiring a wedding planner! We did from the start and now more than ever we are SO thankful for doing so! Instead of us running around like crazy, they are handing most of these last minute details and it’s been a lifesaver!!

  • Hailey

    I agree with Stephani, make sure you’re prepared to let any last minute things go (they probably didn’t matter anyway!). However, I’ll be honest… I still get a little heart-broken when I think about the giant red balloons that didn’t get inflated on my big day but in reality, I got to marry the love of my life and share it with my family and friends! (http://www.polkadotbride.com/2013/08/surprise-melbourne-wedding/)

    I will give you one piece of advice. Once your wedding is done and dusted, get ready for the post-wedding blues. For us, we found the week after our wedding really difficult. It was such a roller coaster of mixed emotions. I often felt like I was obliged to say ‘it was the best day of my life’ but in reality it was SO much work and SO much stress… all for just ONE day. Yes, our wedding was awesome and I’m positive yours will be too… just be prepared for the mix of emotions that creep up on your afterwards!

    Wishing you the best of luck for your big day! – x

    • Kelly

      Hi Hailey! I am so glad to have read this thought from you. All along, I’ve kept wondering if it will really be worth all the work and stress (and MONEY!) we’ve put into just this one day and I’ve TOTALLY already felt the “best day of my life” pressure (and we aren’t even married yet!). Glad to know these feelings are normal, even when you have a totally awesome day! Thanks so much for commenting! =)

  • Jessica Brown

    Congratulations! Everything you wrote about sounds so exciting and fun. I have one thing I would do differently, and one thing I was so glad I did in my last couple days before our wedding.

    First, make a shot list for your photographer. I totally thought I would have it all under control and would remember every single combination of people for photos…but I didn’t. Even with a wedding planner, giving your photographer a shot list will take off a lot of stress.

    Something I was so happy I did was to pack an over night bag for the wedding night AND to give it to our planner. Once the wedding was over and our car arrived, she had the bag in hand ready for us. Without giving it to her, I would of had NO idea where it was!

    I hope you have an amazing wedding day!

    • Kelly

      Definitely a good call on the shot list, Jessica! We’ve started one in hopes it will move things along quicker! And SO smart to pack an overnight bag and hand off to your planner. Definitely going to be doing that!

  • Dani

    I laught hard about the traffic court line…… when we got married (townhall wedding) the room next to ‘our room’ was occupied by the ‘supervisor for death and birth’ – did not know death and birth where supervised 🙂
    All the best

  • lirionohemy

    A reading from Friends?! How fun? I’m excited FOR you! I wonder if it’s Joeys talking about “a love based of giving and receiving as well as having and sharing…” Haha! 😉

  • Brittany

    We literally have the exact same taste! I just booked the La Chureya estate for my October 2015 wedding along with Miho and PTY for our caterer and bartenders. I am also looking at the same hair and makeup company. I came across your blog trying to find other weddings at the estate and was shocked we booked almost all the same vendors. Anyways, I love your blog and you have great taste 😉

  • LeeAnne Rogers

    Hi Kelly,

    Excited for your upcoming day! Just breathe it all in. I’m an event planner and even after all the planning (and MONEY!) I was still so happy with how lovely the weekend was.

    Words of wisdom:

    Your rehearsal dinner is so special and will make you cry. All the love from our out of town family and friends made me feel like my heart might explode from happiness and gratefulness.

    Pack your gifts for your wedding party early and assign someone to help pass them out. I also wish I had my videographer come to record speeches at the dinner. Also, if your photographer isn’t coming, assign someone to take pics.

    If it’s a large crowd, I recommend a mic so people can hear the toasts, too.

    For the day of:
    Relax! It’s so nice to know the professionals have it! Also, make sure someone gets your dress bag to your hotel so you can hang and bag your wedding dress. Mine was missing and I had to carry it by hand the next morning.

    If there is a large group photo you want, take it early. People will sneek out and I missed the one photo I wanted of my entire extended family (even though on the shot list.)

    Have your caterer pack food to go. Even if you eat, you’ll likely be so hungry when you get to your hotel after all the dancing and adrenaline wears off.

    I hope your day is amazing! I can’t wait to read your follow up post after! And congrats on the Today show collab! What an exciting time for you!

    Cheers,
    LeeAnne

  • Mikaela

    For some reason, the one thing I forgot was my list of who got corsages/boutonnieres. I had made the list…but left it at home. I’m sure this is something you’ve already figured out, but I’ll just throw it out there anyways!

  • Beth

    My advice is to stop and look around. Actually tell yourself to look around. You have spent months planning for what will amount to just a few hours in a day. It will go by FAST! So stop and look around. My other advice, don’t drink until you have eaten. That is super important.
    Enjoy the day, and all of the love that it brings.

  • Susan

    I suggest assigning someone to pack the two of you a “leftovers to-go carton.” You may be running around talking to people so much during the wedding that you forget to eat (Also: Don’t forget to eat). Plus, it will be a long night. By the time you get back to your hotel room, you will be famished. Trust me on this.

  • Jordan {Queen of LA}

    i just need to say…. melissa and sydney from BP were my wedding planners too and they did THE BEST. JOB. EVER. Our wedding was 2 weeks ago at the four seasons in LA (go check out #happilyeverRAFFter to see pics!) and i swear, every single detail was perfect. i didnt worry for a single second that it wasnt going to be exactly like i had dreamed (and talked about with them FOREVER) – and sure enough, it was.

    if you have any other questions – please, seriously, email me! happy to try and help. congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!

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