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Happy Valentine’s Day you guys!!! I thought it would be fun to talk a little about love languages today, which is oddly one of my favorite topics! Haha!
Have you ever taken the five love languages test? There’s about a zillion of them online but you can take the “official” one here or read the book! It basically categorizes how you show and receive love. It’s something I forced Jeff to take a few years ago and while we still have a long way to go, it’s been SO helpful in our relationship.
My love language is acts of service, AKA for me, actions speak louder than words. I show love and feel loved by doing something to ease the burden on someone or doing something thoughtful for someone. Jeff’s love language on the other hand is words of affirmation. Jeff shows and feels love through words of encouragement, appreciation and respect.
When you take the quiz, it will rank your top love language down to the one you least relate to. Want to know the best part? Each of our love languages is the other’s dead LAST one. Upon learning this, everything just made so much SENSE to us! We now know we have to work extra hard to show the other that we love them, and we’re still constantly learning.
Jeff is always my biggest cheerleader. He is constantly telling me how proud he is of me and how impressed he is by everything I’ve accomplished. I am obviously very grateful to have such a big supporter in my life, but when you get down to it, those words don’t mean as much to me as his actions do. An example of what meant way more is when we were deep in the trenches of fertility treatments and my second miscarriage. Jeff got up one day and made me breakfast, and continued to make me breakfast every single day after that. He had never done that before, and I always tell him that is the most meaningful thing he’s ever done for me. Simple, but so important.
On my side of things, I have had to learn to share my appreciation and pride towards Jeff through words and not actions. This is really hard for me. I actually once gave him a card with nothing written in it because I just didn’t know what to say. Ha! #winning. It makes me seem heartless, but I’m not (I’m not! Ha!), I am just not the kind of person who easily finds words to express my love. I try to constantly remind myself to verbalize my love and appreciation and it’s really mind-blowing to see how happy that simple task can make him!
So what is your love language? Does your partner share the same one or are you opposites like us?? I’ve actually found this test helpful in more than just our relationship, I’ve learned so much about friends, family, even employees by learning their love language! I’m so curious to hear yours below!!