#MeetTheMindells: Three Months Out

8/12/2014

GUYS! We got so much done this past month. HOORAY FOR US!

Fun Wedding Accessories
My wedding accessories! Sweater from Ted Baker (No longer available), Shoes, Earrings and Cha Cha Earrings from Kate Spade. More info below!

What We’ve Done

I had my bridal shower! And it was amazing. We’re getting photos back soon so I can share them with you! It was really fun to have people from all parts of my life in one room and the room was freaking GORGEOUS, mind you! I won’t gush too much here right now because I’ll be doing a separate post on the shower, for sure.

Honeycomb Table RunnerThe table from my shower, which I know I’ve already shown you but I’m just obsessed!

Planned the Ceremony! When we were home in New Jersey we sat down with our officiant, Jeff’s Uncle Alan, and planned out the whole ceremony! It was fun to piece together all the various parts and that made it all seem pretty real. All that’s left to do is write our vows and select a reading. BAM!

Bought our wedding bands! Also while in NJ, we bought our wedding bands. Truth be told, I didn’t want a wedding band. I love my ring, and because of the emerald cut, a band looks really silly with it in my opinion. But, I didn’t know if twenty years down the road I’d regret not having one, SO! I decided to get a very thin and simple gold band and I plan to wear it on my right hand. That way, I have one, and can switch it over if I ever want, but it doesn’t clutter up my engagement ring which I adore on its own right now. Anyone else done this? I hear it’s “very European.” Ha, I need to move to Europe! Jeff got basically the exact same band but thicker, just simple and gold. We haven’t engraved anything on them, but I think it would be really fun to do something funny. We each have a few ideas but haven’t pulled the trigger. Do you have anything engraved on yours? My sister-in-law had my brother’s band engraved with “Put it back on.” which I think is the best thing I have EVER heard. It would be hard to top that one…

Outfitted the Men! Well, most of them. Apparently we actually were really productive in NJ. Jeff went shopping with his best man in NYC and scored a Sandro tux! It’s navy with a black shawl lapel and it fits him so well! As soon as we got back to LA, we went over to Macy’s and found out they were having a huge sale on suits, so we ordered a simple slim-fit black suit for each of the groomsmen and called it a day! We debated so much over what to have the guys wear so I’m really really really glad at least a few people are clothed. Now, we have to outfit my nephews, ages 10 and (almost) 2! Ties for everyone, TBD. Getting there!

I ordered a bazillion options for the girls. After talking to everyone at my shower and seeing their “This girl is crazy.” look when I told them I still didn’t know what the bridesmaids were wearing, I figured I should get a move on. I ordered a bunch of dresses but didn’t like any of them, so now I have a bunch of skirts on the way! We’ll see what happens. I also found this AMAZING company called Hucklebones and ordered a bunch of their summer collection on sale for the little girls in the wedding (ages 11, 9 and 6). So far I’ve loved everything that’s arrived, but I’ll have to do a little fashion show with my nieces to see what works! Their new fall collection looks equally amazing.

Bridesmaid Attire IdeasA few of the items I ordered to try for the girls! Haven’t gotten them yet, but we’ll see!
Sources, left to right: (Top Row, Adults: Floral Skirt, Coral Skirt, Peach Skirt; Bottom Row, Adults: Light Pink Skirt, Pink Skirt; Kids: Shift Dress, Gold Skirt, Gold Dress)

Had my first dress fitting! I got to see my dress for the first time in real life! Since the designer makes each dress custom, I really didn’t know what it was going to look like when all was said and done! Luckily, except for one change we’ll be making, I was overall very happy. Between my dress, hair and makeup my word I’ve always used is “I don’t want to look bride-y.” Surprisingly enough, most people tend to get what I mean by that, as weird as it sounds! I also bought shoes and jewelry and both worked with the dress! SCORE! I ended up getting the Kate Spade wedges you guys loved but in blue. The blue felt a little more sophisticated to me than the pink, and it can act as my “something blue” too, channeling Carrie Bradshaw and all! I also bought these earrings and they literally were SO perfect. DONE and DONE!

Hair + Makeup, booked! True life: I hate having my makeup done. I always feel like I look like a clown since I don’t wear too much normally, and I’m also allergic to a lot of makeup so you never know if my eyes are gonna go bananas or not. Luckily, Bash recommended Erica at 10.11 Makeup and after my trial last week, I can officially say I did NOT feel like a clown! Erica was so great at listening to all my concerns (and believe me, I don’t talk makeup so this was a challenge). She said something along the lines of “my goal is to make you a more glamorous version of yourself” and that’s just what she did. I felt like myself, just a little more fancied up! As far as my hair goes, I’m doing a loose/untamed low bun, for lack of a better term. I think I’ll probably add a fresh flower, but that’s to be discussed with Holly soon!

Bridal Hair and Makeup TrialPost Hair + Makeup Trial!

Booked! We officially booked both rental companies that I discussed last time, and we booked our bar services which are coming from Please & Thank You (the sister company of our caterers). For our bar we’ll be having two signature cocktails (TBD), three wines and three beers and keeping it at that. It was a way to keep the cost (somewhat) down instead of having a full bar.

We got in touch with our DJ and started figuring out our first dance! That’s all I can say about that. EEP!

Invitations! After chatting with Nole and telling her that I just had NO IDEA what I wanted to do with my invitations other than I wanted them to have calligraphy and I loved watercolor, she said “well why don’t you do an all calligraphy invitation?” And I was like, Well. Yeah. That sounds like a perfect idea! So, we finished up the wording for our invitations and sent it off to Lauren (A Fabulous Fete) who will be doing all the calligraphy! I’m really excited to see what she does with it!

What We Need To Do

Finalize the remaining bridal party attire. This is a staple for every “What We Need To Do” category thus far, so you know, I didn’t want to let you down.

Citrus Bridal Shower
A few more shower details! Cookies from The Alison Show, Stationery from 9th Letter Press, Favor Bags from Shop Sweet Lulu, J+K Lemon Drop Boxes from my Aunt!

Finalize the Welcome Reception menu. We’re having a tasting at The Saguaro with Jeff’s parents while they’re out here later this month and then we’ll be able to nail down all those details! Assuming we don’t faint from the fact that we are crazy enough to go Palm Springs in August!

Figure out a reading. We’re having a close family friend of Jeff’s, who’s also a close high school friend of mine, do a reading at the wedding. However, we don’t want any super sappy/romantic/religious readings. Basically, we don’t want a typical wedding reading at all. So! We’re researching some funny alternatives but haven’t gotten too into it yet. If you guys have any suggestions, let me know!

Book dessert. The most important part. DUH! Jeff and I have a tradition of getting a slice of cake at our favorite place every time we’re in Palm Springs, so we’ll be having that bakery do several one tier cakes in different flavors! I’ll share more details once we’ve got ’em but I’m really excited that we were able to incorporate a place that holds so much meaning for us from our many visits to PS!

Keep trying to finalize the decor plan. We have rentals squared away officially, and we have a florist who I trust with my life (!), but as far as the rest of the design details, we don’t have anything. And to be frank, I have approximately zero ideas. Isn’t that nuts? It makes me feel like a total failure, that as someone who has a creative job and does party DIYs for a living, I don’t have a single cool idea for my own wedding. But, it’s been nine months and nothing has come to me (I blame the pressure and my lack of time to put thought into it), so I’ve just accepted it and we’ll see what ends up happening.

Find room for all of our registry gifts. OH BOY! Currently you can’t walk in our living room because we don’t have any storage for the gifts we received thus far! So that’s been interesting. We’re trying to move, but haven’t succeeded yet. So for now, we’ve just gotten really good at hopping over things.

Small Dog Big Box
This is what I come home to every day. Well, minus the dog on top. I’m pretty sure the UPS guy wants us to die.

How We’re Feeling

I’m feeling a little deflated right now to be honest. As evidenced above, the fact that my wedding day that I have been dreaming about for as long as I can remember is finally here and I really have no idea what I want is pretty draining and makes me sad! When we talk about things like the music and dancing, and the mariachi band, I get really excited. But when we start talking about the look of the day, I just try to put it off because, again, I feel like a failure! That’s a lot for me to admit here, too, when I know you guys are probably pretty curious about all the crazy DIYs and unexpected elements I have planned! I’ve always said, my best ideas come at the last minute but that doesn’t really work well for wedding planning, so as of now I have none. And that’s not an exaggeration, folks. So, there it is.

Help! (Or, Questions for You Hitched Folks!)

Oh a happier note… music! Let’s discuss. As I mentioned, we’re currently working on finalizing some of the big dance songs, our first dance, my Father/Daughter dance and Jeff’s Mother/Son dance. I’ve enlisted my dad, who’s great with music, to come up with some ideas for our dance, and Jeff and I have a good idea of our first dance, but aren’t ready to share that yet. So in the meantime, I’m curious… what did YOU guys dance to for any or all of the above special dances at your wedding?? Did you go a traditional route or do something crazy!? I’ve always been a fan of watching YouTube videos of funny wedding dances, but I think there’s something really nice about a classic dance too. Would LOVE to know what went down on your big day!

With that, I’m signing off for another month of wedding planning insanity! Happy that I finally had some real big accomplishments to share with you this time, and hoping to have even more come September!

27 comments

  • Claireabellemakes

    Loved reading your wedding planning progress! In the UK the couple don’t traditionally get the wedding gifts until on the day or after. Good to see the dog is looking after the packages 🙂

    I have no idea about planning weddings or music choices etc, but I do love funny wedding dances although it’s hard to be original these days!

    • Kelly

      See, I totally feel the same way about fun wedding dances now! It’s so tough to be original when it seems like everything has been done and everyone’s seen it on YouTube!

  • Janice

    ceremony reading ideas:
    http://www.bellwetherevents.com/uncategorized/another-great-wedding-ceremony-reading-2
    http://www.bellwetherevents.com/uncategorized/i-love-an-awesome-wedding-reading

    My dad and I danced to a song from the original Muppet Movie, I thought you might appreciate that. One of the favorite music moments from my wedding was our reception entrance to Welcome to the Jungle. it was a big hit with the guests.

  • Mo

    Can I just say, I am so geeked to see you as a non-bridey bride (especially looking at those bluuuuuue shoooooes)? And I love that you’re using skirts instead of dresses for the bridesmaids (assuming that works out): very cool!

    For music, we did a first dance, father/daughter and son/mother dance. I’ve always been a fan of people who do different and fun first dance songs. It sounds weird, but out of everything I observe at a wedding reception, I think “the first dance” defines the couple and their relationship the best. This is a song that embodies their relationship, and they’ve chosen it to represent who they are as a couple.

    Classic songs are fine, but also overdone in my opinion…I don’t even pay attention to slow first dance songs if I’ve heard the same song at three other weddings already. *yawn.* If it’s a slow song that means something to the couple, that’s different, but in that case I’d love some context about why the song is so meaningful to them.

    We wanted FUN. We started off with a slow (but also kinda tacky) song as a teaser: “(God Must’ve Spent) A Little More Time on You” by N*Sync…then after the first chorus, the DJ mixed in “Feel So Close” by Calvin Harris and we choreographed a dance through the end of that song. I’ve never seen people go so crazy for a first dance before, and it was truly one of my favorite memories of our wedding day!

    • Kelly

      Thanks Mo! I’m pretty excited about how my whole wedding look is coming together!

      I agree that some songs are just SO overdone. I think the idea of having something that gives context to the song is really brilliant. That way it doesn’t look like you just picked one out of a hat! 😉 Your wedding dance sounds AMAZING! Hope you got that on video!

  • CMDA

    Hi!
    My wedding was 3 months ago and I keep smiling every time I listen to any song that was played that day.
    We had to choose a song for the entrance into the reception, our song for that was Marry you by Bruno Mars. I love that song.
    Another one for the cake moment, which was Young & Beautiful by Lana del Rey. Great atmosphere.
    THE song selected for our first dance was a Tango, Por una cabeza by Carlos Gardel. We love this song and we decided to create our own choreography. We did practice a bit before the wedding day and we got very good feedback from friends and family. Anyway, we had fun, preparing the dance and dancing on the wedding day.
    People even asked where did we take the tango lessons…hahaha… in the living room 🙂
    Good luck with the prep! and enjoy the process!

    • Kelly

      Congrats!! I love that Bruno Mars song! We’ve actually been tossing that one around for something. The fact that you did a tango is AMAZING!! I wish Jeff and I were coordinated enough to do that…. 😉

  • Theresa @ AMomInTheMaking

    When we did our first dance at our wedding, some guest started chanting “one big circle with everybody in it…” kinda random, but basically all the guest got on the dance floor and then we danced in the middle.

    I felt like it made it more fun instead of everyone awkwardly sitting and waiting while you share this lonnnnggg drawn out song.

    We also chose the song, “I love you baby” yes… like they sing in 10 things I hate about you. But it was fun because we started out with a slow romantic dance… but when the music sped up we busted into swing, twirls etc 🙂

    there was also lots of kids at our wedding so they make fun backup dancers lol while we were dancing

  • Jaimee

    Something we chose to do at our wedding, which I am sure I read somewhere, was have a special song (I believe it was Marvin Gaye So In Love With You, for the married couples. We started with 50+ years on the dance floor and slowly made our way down to newlyweds. It was really special watching all the couples dance. And we got the most amazing picture of my grandparents dancing, which now holds the utmost importance as my grandmother only made it a little over a year after our wedding to her battle with cancer.

    Whatever you choose, it will be amazing!

  • Jaimee

    Oh, and I have to add, we walked into our reception to Jay Z’s “Otis” because why the heck not?! lol

  • Rebecca

    awwww it is so easy to start feeling overwhelmed! I work in the events industry and choosing all of this stuff and wanting to have the best day ever started to be stressful. With SO much stuff four there now you thought, was it pretty enough, creative enough, etc. Just relax and make it yours and it will be lovely! I promise!!!!

    We danced to Jack Johnson “I got You”, listen to his Spotify Session story about it, its really sweet and its true, no matter, you got each other.

    My dad and I danced to cute and cheesy but a good fun Dads song, Stevie Wonder Isn’t she lovely.

    ENJOY IT!!!! xoxo

  • amanda

    I loved picking out the music for our wedding. The songs were pretty much all classics that mean a lot to me. Matt doesn’t get too sentimental about music, so he left it to me. We both came up with a list of our favorite artists for the DJ and kept them in a theme—Soul, R&B, Hip Hop, Oldies, and some Pop and Rock like Michael Jackson and The Black Keys.

    Processional: John Lennon’s “Imagine”
    Bridal Processional: The Beatles “Here comes the Sun”
    Ring Warming: Over the Rhine “I want you to be my love”
    Recessional: The Beach Boys “Wouldn’t It Be Nice” and Bob Marley’s “One Love”
    Our first dance: Regina Specktor’s cover of John Lennon’s “Real Love”
    Mother / Son dance: James Taylor’s “You’ve got a Friend” (Matt’s mom loves James Taylor)
    Father / Daughter dance: The Beatles “Here There and Everywhere” (My dad hates dancing, so we picked a short song, and he raised me on The Beatles.)

    Good luck on your last month!

  • LauraD

    Your wedding is going to be amazing. All of your details are stunning so far. For a fun reading, my mother-in-law read “Oh the places you’ll go” by Dr. Suess and it was a big hit. We didn’t really have a traditional father/daughter, mother/son dance, but one wedding I went to they did “Sunrise, Sunset” from Fiddler on the Roof and I loved it. “My Girl” by The Temptations and “You’ll Never Walk Alone” by Gerry and the Pacemakers were also on our playlist.

  • Stacia

    I think your wedding dances is a great place for you to express your personalities and have fun. My husband and I danced to “Falling in Love at a Coffee Shop” because that’s totally how our story started and it’s always been what we would consider “our song” even if we don’t listen to it all the time. My dad really wanted something more traditional for the Father/Daughter dance, and I knew it mattered so much more to him than it did to me, so we went with The Way Your Look Tonight. However, my husband and his mom went with Funkytown. We all just had a great time with it and kept it low pressure. 🙂

  • Susan

    Sounds like things are coming together nicely. LOVE your weeding shoes in blue! Don’t stress too much about the look. It will all work out. I’m sure of that! RE: the reading: How about choosing the lyrics of some cheesy song? Something that guests won’t recognize at first, but then will come to realize is a song. Maybe Journey’s “Don’t Stop Believin” or something along that vein.

  • Brittni

    First off, I love your hair and makeup trial! It looks so good.

    As far as music / dances… Our first dance was to an old Sparklehorse song, It’s a Wonderful Life. Which was a pretty weird choice for a wedding song, but fit us perfectly. Now, whenever I hear it, it brings back all those memories from the day.

    So, my vote for you guys, would be to just do what feels the most ‘like you’ and not stress about trying to please anyone else or entertain people (although I imagine you guys have something pretty entertaining up your sleeves already because you are a dancing machine).

  • Julie

    I remember having a hard time picking out the songs for everything too! We didn’t go “traditional” but also didn’t go too wild either. We met somewhere in the middle.

    We actually let our parents pick what songs they wanted to do their dances to. This way, they both likely had a special meaning behind the song. My dad picked Bob Dylan – Forever Young, and Jordan’s mom picked Frank Sinatra – Fly Me To The Moon.

    For our first dance, we chose Owl City – Meteor Shower. This is because it reminded us of the beginning of our relationship, and really is the closest thing we ever had to a ‘song’ for us.

    Processional – Sleeping At Last – Turning Pages(Instrumental)
    Recessional – The Givers – Up Up Up
    Entrance – Passion Pit – I’ll Be Alright

    Good luck! Can’t wait to see what you choose! xo JA

  • Lauren

    you can do no wrong! whatever you choose will be perfect! the good news is, you can do whatever you want because it’s your day!

    xx.

  • Chelsea Foy

    Ahhhhhh I LOVE the music question. Okay. Here goes ours.

    We left a lot of the cheesier stuff out of our reception (no garter/bouquet toss, all that jazz), but we definitely did a first dance. Ours was to “Beginning to See the Light” by Bobby Darin. Classic, jazzy, rad. We lumped together the father/daughter and mother/son dance to the Beach Boys’ “God Only Knows.” I walked down the aisle to a piano and ukulele arrangement of “Sea of Love” (the Cat Power arrangement).

    And one of my very favorite moments was the last dance at our reception — we saved one of my favorite songs for the end. We played “(Today I Met) The Boy I’m Gonna Marry” by Darlene Love. I have the absolute best memory of dancing with Ryan and looking out at the rest of the dance floor at all of our friends and family dancing in couples and trios and groups to that song. It was magic. 🙂

  • Claire

    I am also thinking of skirts for my bridesmaids, as I am actually wearing a skirt myself! My bridesmaids are my teenage sisters, so I don’t want them to feel too stuffy in dresses, and my wedding is super casual (we are actually having two small weddings as our families are in the UK and Australia, so this would be for the wedding in the UK with my family). Your picks are great, such gorgeous colours.
    I’ll probably end up letting my sisters choose what they prefer, but I say skirts for the win 🙂

  • Laurel (@abubblylife)

    Awww, this is so cute. For your songs if there is anything meaningful for you two, that makes it special and a great memory to have.
    Geez, I have almost been married 10 years now (how is that possible??) We did an Enya song for me to walk down aisle. And I was and am obsessed with Moulin Rouge, so it fit our wedding. My husband thought it was so cute how much I loved it & loved the lyrics, so Come What May was our dance song, it is a more common one I think because of the lyrics, but it really meant something to us . Still love it. Still reminds me of my wedding day, nearly ten years later.
    Wedding planning is stressful, but keep your eyes on the prize- a beautiful day where you marry the love of your life. A beginning of a wonderful journey. 🙂

  • Allison Leak

    Found your blog not too long ago looking for wedding inspiration and I can’t believe how many wedding similarities we have! I am getting in Palm Springs in 3 months, mexican food, mariachi band, a few different flavored one tier cakes, I don’t really want a band… I could go on! CRAZY! We must have really good taste 😉

  • Kendra

    I may not be anywhere close to getting married but as a lindy hopper, I can’t help but try to nudge you in that direction! There’s definitely a scene out there in the LA area and plenty of places to learn.

    Love and Swingouts!
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6fDIPCuGpjE

  • natalie

    May I ask, where is the pineapple shirt from? Thank you.

  • MaryAnne

    You should have a look at a blog I found a few years ago that planned a complete DIY wedding and under 2k! It was informative on diy gifts, cutting cost, plans for djs, etc. It stopped after she married, but I found she started again.

    The 2k DIY wedding is littledwell.blogspot.com. She is blogging at littledwell.com now.
    Hope you might find some great inspiration! She is right up your alley!

  • Lu

    So excited for you!!! You are an amazing person and will have a great time!:)

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