When we started our adoption process, the idea of a parent become more real than ever before, because it could happen at any time. I immediately jotted down “re-examining myself as a parent” as an idea for a post because it was something I couldn’t, and still can’t, stop thinking about. The idea of suddenly having a tiny human watching your every move, mimicking your habits and often becoming a mini-you makes you look at yourself harder than you ever have before. If you do something you’re proud of, you think “Wow, I can’t wait to show my child that.” and if you do something you wish you didn’t, you immediately fear “Will my child do this too? How do I stop?”
Today I’m partnering with Acer to share my thoughts on the topic. They gave me one of their (crazy beautiful!?) Swift laptops to try out and bring along on my adventures as a new working mom trying to achieve the goal of separating work-life and family-life when it’s needed most.
Let’s talk about my work-life first. I love that Arlo will get to grow up watching his mom run a business. He’ll get to come to mom’s office and see a rainbow world filled with balloons and giant french fry costumes and sprinkles and know that I took something really crazy that I loved and turned it into my job. And that he can too. I love that he’ll get to pull out our new Swift laptop and help research how to turn his favorite food into a giant piñata or share his tiny opinions on what color green he likes best. He’ll get to see what it’s like to design products, take photos, write from the heart and connect with a community. And that’s amazing.
What I don’t want him to experience is the constant need everyone has for me. Someone always needs an answer… on an email or Instagram DM or a Facebook message. I don’t want him to be trying to show me his latest drawing or magic trick and notice that I’m looking the other way. I’m thankful for incredibly portable tools like the Swift laptop that I can take to the office and bring home with me (because let’s face it, after he goes to sleep… I do need to work), but that I can tuck away and not have staring me back in the face, tempting me, in the moments where I need to be present for my son.
And now let’s talk about my at-home life. A fine line in a career like mine! For one, I love that Arlo will grow up around music. He loves it and so do we. We are constantly singing and dancing and once we have a house, we’ll be buying a piano so I can take that hobby back up too. I’m also glad he’ll grow up learning the importance of tradition and the joy of holidays, two things I hold near and dear to my heart.
But there’s two things about myself that have been glaring at me since I made the choice to become a mom: my poor food choices and my lack of reading.
My dad and brothers were always so good about reading, both themselves and to their kids. I, on the other hand, can’t even remember the last time I read a book. Embarrassing. I’ve made it a point to read to Arlo every day since he was born. But I want him to see his mom set an example, that she reads too. That reading isn’t just for bedtime when you’re little. That it’s a life long skill and that it’s still FUN as an adult.
On the food front, running a business means I often don’t have time to cook. And that is ok. I’ve come to terms with that. What I have not come to terms with is the fact that it often means poor food choices for both Jeff and I. How can I be telling my son to eat his broccoli whilst chowing down on a slice of deep dish pizza? It’s a huge priority of mine to find solutions that encourage our entire family to eat healthily, so we are setting an example for him to make healthy choices for his meals.
It’s funny how becoming a mom made all of these habits, ones that existed long before Arlo came around, glaringly apparent to me. Children are sponges and I can already see how much Arlo is absorbing. But I’m glad that it’s given me new motivation to work on improving them. And I’m forever grateful to companies like Acer that have made it possible for me to open a laptop anywhere in the world to get my work done and close it just as quickly to get in those extra snuggles while they’re still plentiful.
So tell me, what qualities about yourself are you really excited to share with your children? And are there any habits you’re hoping to break so they don’t follow down that path? I’d love to hear!
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